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What is misogynization?

What does the term misogynization mean? (Referring to my German ebook on misogyny and pornography - and of course to my book the "PAadviser")

The term Misogynization refers to the term violentization by Lonnie Athens. Just as Athens describes the development into a violent person as a multi-stage psychological process, it could be the same with the development of misogyny and antifeminism.

Accordingly, misogyny can develop when several of the following factors occur in a man's life:
  • Violence (physical punishment) in childhood by the mother (or: a missing protection of the mother from the father's violence).
  • Neglect as a child by the mother
  • Emotional abuse: the mother abuses the child for her own longing for tenderness and for her need to talk about her own problems, because it is not possible for her through an adult partner. She does that beyond that point in time when the boy turns away from such attempts (of course tenderness is important in the early years of the child!)
  • A father / brother who speaks negatively about women
  • "Overmothering" / overprotection / "helicopter mothers": too much control of the boy's activities
  • Negative experiences (bullying) in kindergarten: by other girls or the female kindergarten teacher 
  • Negative experiences (see above) at school: by female classmates or a female teacher
  • Rejection / disappointment in attempts of romantic and erotic approach to a girl
  • A circle of male friends / a clique in which girls are talked about negatively
  • Consumption of pornography (which is almost always misogynistic)
  • Separation or divorce, especially if a child is involved for whom the woman gets custody
  • Feeling discriminated against when looking for a job/career due to women's advancement programs
  • At an advanced age: a prolonged partnerless phase
Psychoanalytically, there also could be a hatred for those aspects of femininity (femininities) that a man has had to suppress in himself (e.g., due to a strict upbringing) and has now forbidden himself: Softness, cheerfulness, passivity.

And of course religion, especially Islam, can be a source of misogyny.

IMPORTANT:

1) All these are possible, but not determining factors. However, the likelihood of becoming misogynistic is likely to increase with the number of experiences mentioned.

2) Many of the (possible) experiences mentioned are due to a lack of men's presence: In child rearing (as active fathers), in kindergartens (too few male kindergarten teachers) and elementary schools. So I  do NOT want to give the impression that "women are to blame for everything again". Many of the situations mentioned are due to an absence of men, which is to be criticized!

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